Over the last couple weeks, parents have been sharing with me their frustrations due to the added pressure of school, extra driving, and homework, as well as the increase in conflict with their children. They tell me that they are nagging, yelling and threatening more in order to try to get their children to cooperate. It’s only 2 weeks into the school year and already parents are tired.
Some parents are also worried about how their child is coping in school. They worry about their child’s self-esteem and resilience. They wonder whether their child will come to them if they have a problem.
One of the best ways to improve your relationship with your child is to LISTEN. I know. You’re probably thinking “but, I do listen!” he thing is, because we love our children so much, we want to help them. So….we listen for a bit, and then we usually jump in with ways to help. As we offer suggestions, our children feel frustrated. They don’t feel heard and they often get angry. They don’t like any of our suggestions and they storm off in a huff. Sound familiar? [Read more…]